earthlings are confusing!

[rmd]

it looks like i'll be moderating this arisia's "earth girls/earth boys are/aren't easy" panel. i'm trying to figure out what to hit the other panelists with as far as questions.

i mean, the obvious points ("shower frequently" "don't only stare at a woman's tits") are, well, obvious.

must ponder this...

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[penk.livejournal.com]

regardless of your panel content, that AngryFlower strip is one of my favorite... and onw in animated form!

I complemented Steve when I met him at ubercon for that strip in particular.

[donnad.livejournal.com]

If guys want to meet women in fandom, besides showering and brushing ones teeth, they have to come out of the gaming room once in a while at cons. But then the types of guys who would need that advice probably wouldn't be at the panel now would they?

[surrealestate.livejournal.com]

What's the official description?

[rmd.livejournal.com]

still mostly a placeholder last i saw.

[kathrynt.livejournal.com]

If someone does something nice for you, like pull out your chair or hold the door for you, smile delightedly and say "Why thank you!"

Take rejection well, and with a grin. I find that if you ask someone to dance / to snog / if you can buy them a drink and the answer comes back "No," you can do a lot worse than to grin and say "Oh well, my loss."

If you are talking to someone you don't want to be talking to, all it takes to get out of the conversation is "Excuse me." You can follow it up with something else -- "Excuse me, but my roommate is trying to get my attention" or whatever, but it's not necessary, you can just say "Excuse me," and leave.

The best icebreaker of all at a con is "Wow, you're really smart." Want to get into the pants of the hottie at the art show? Approach them, wait until they say something, and then ask for more explanation -- and listen. If it goes well, maybe you can continue the conversation over coffee?

[coraline]

i first read that second sentence as something about "trying to figure out how to hit on the other panelists" which would probably fall under the category of no-nos :)

[istemi.livejournal.com]

This gem from dpolicar (http://www.livejournal.com/users/dpolicar/48361.html) is very succinct:

Stripped of meaningless local context, it boiled down to: If you want to interest other people in something you are doing, it's more effective to be interested in it in their presence than it is to be interested in telling them about it.

[donnad.livejournal.com]

A point to make: If you expect to meet Miss Perfect at a SciFi Con you will be dissapointed. You can't expect to find a Jaclin Smith (or insert you choice of attractive woman here.) at a Sci Fi Con any more than a woman can expect to find their Sean Connery (again insert your choice of attractive man here.) And if you could they probably wouldn't be interested in you anyway. Learn to look beyond the surface appearance and adornments to the person inside.